The letter has your name on it, and the balance isn’t yours. You signed so someone else could get the loan, and now the lender wants the money from you.
Short answer: The lender can come to you for the full balance, plus late fees and collection costs, and it does not have to chase the borrower first. Missed payments can land on your credit report for seven years. Your best moves are to pay or negotiate before the account goes further behind, ask for a hardship plan, and push for a release or refinance that takes your name off.
The rules below come from the Federal Trade Commission cosigner rule, the CFPB, the Florida Attorney General and Experian. Your own loan contract decides the details, so read it.
What you actually agreed to
A cosigner is not a backup. Before you sign, the lender must hand you a separate “Notice to Cosigner” that says you may have to pay the full amount plus late fees or collection costs, that the creditor can collect from you without first trying the borrower, and that a default may go on your credit record (16 CFR 444.3). The notice says the creditor can use lawsuits and wage garnishment against you.
The Florida Attorney General adds that lenders often ask for a cosigner because the borrower did not qualify alone, so one missed payment can be enough for them to come to you (Florida AG).
The first 48 hours
- Get the numbers. Ask the lender for the current balance, the amount past due, any late fees and the date of the last payment.
- Ask for copies of the loan documents. The Florida AG notes the lender is not required to send them, so the borrower or you may need to ask.
- Pull your own credit report and check how the account shows up.
- Ask the lender to notify you in writing whenever a payment is missed from now on.
- Do not promise the lender a payment you can’t make. Ask what hardship options exist first.
Missed payments stay on a credit report for seven years, and payment history makes up 35% of a score, according to Experian. Every extra month behind costs you more than the payment itself.
Five ways out, compared
| Option | What it does | Who has to act |
|---|---|---|
| Pay it yourself | Keeps the account current | You |
| Forbearance | Pauses or cuts payments, up to 12 months in one example | Lender approves |
| Refinance | Removes you from the loan | Borrower must qualify |
| Cosigner release | Removes you after on-time payments | Lender criteria apply |
| Nonprofit counseling | Budget help or a debt management plan | You or the borrower |
Options come from Experian and the CFPB; forbearance length and release rules differ by lender.
Experian lists these as the usual routes: ask the borrower to refinance, ask the lender for forbearance (a temporary pause or reduction in payments, and the lender will likely review finances first), or talk to a nonprofit counselor (Experian). The CFPB adds that if the borrower does not respond, the cosigner can contact the servicer about relief, and any changed payment agreement should be in writing (CFPB).
Pay attention to your own budget before you cover the loan. Our debt-to-income ratio calculator shows how much a new monthly payment changes what lenders see.
Illustration: what falling behind looks like
| Example: $310 monthly payment | Past due |
|---|---|
| 1 month missed | $310 |
| 3 months missed | $930 |
| 6 months missed | $1,860 |
Illustration only, before late fees and interest. Your payment and fees are in your loan contract.
Once it grows, the next steps are the ones in our guides on stopping payment on a personal loan, car repossession and getting sued for debt. The longer it sits, the fewer choices you have.
A surprise some private student loan cosigners get
A 2014 CFPB advisory warned that some private student loans let the servicer declare default when a cosigner dies or files for bankruptcy, even if the borrower is paying on time, and a default can make the whole balance due (CFPB advisory). It is archived and may be out of date, so ask your servicer about current terms and about release. The CFPB says many servicers do not tell borrowers when they qualify, so ask directly (CFPB).
Straight answers to the follow-ups
Can the lender come after me before the borrower?
Yes. The federal notice every cosigner is supposed to receive says the creditor can collect from you without first trying to collect from the borrower, including by lawsuit or wage garnishment (16 CFR 444.3).
Will their missed payments hit my credit?
They can. Missed payments can stay on your credit report for seven years (Experian), and the CFPB points out they can hurt you whether or not you know about them (CFPB). Look at your own report now, not after the letter.
Can I get my name off the loan?
Sometimes. Some loans release a cosigner after the borrower makes payments for a set time, and the borrower usually has to apply (CFPB). Refinancing into the borrower’s name alone also works if they qualify (Experian).
What if the borrower dies or files for bankruptcy?
On some private student loans, the lender can treat a cosigner’s death or bankruptcy as a default even when payments are on time, and the whole balance can become due. That warning is from a 2014 CFPB advisory, so read your own loan terms (CFPB).
Do I have to pay the late fees too?
The cosigner notice says you may owe late fees and collection costs on top of the balance (16 CFR 444.3). The exact amounts are in your loan contract, so ask the lender for a copy if you never got one.
They won’t answer my calls. What do I do?
Go to the lender directly. You are a legal borrower on the account, so ask for the statement, the amount past due and any hardship options in writing. If collectors start calling you, read your rights with debt collectors.
Disclaimer: DebtShift is an educational platform operated by H Ali Logistics Ltd. This article is general education, not legal or financial advice. For free, nonprofit credit counseling, contact the National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) at nfcc.org or 877-360-6322.
Sources
- Cornell LII, 16 CFR 444.3, Unfair or deceptive cosigner practices
- Florida Attorney General, How to protect yourself: co-signing a loan
- Experian, What to do if you cosign for someone and they default
- CFPB, Tips for student loan cosigners
- CFPB, Consumer advisory: cosigners can cause surprise defaults (2014, archived)
Last reviewed October 2026
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